Lately, my mantra has been: my actions/thoughts should add meaning to my life, if it doesn't, then I will not do it.
So, when I read the following, I thought of a couple of good friends who are actively seeking a mate and seem to constantly run into a dead in. I try to encourage them not to settle for less than they desire just to quiet their need to be in a relationship because often times settling results in regrets.
Read the following from www.divinecaroline.com
Reprinted from: www.divinecaroline.com
Why Do I Waste My Time and Energy On You?
By: Shuntai Beaugard
Time and energy are precious commodities. We can never seem to get enough of it or have enough of it. So, why do you continue to invest your precious time and energy into a relationship or marriage that no longer works for you? Why do you continue to invest your time chasing someone that’s not worth what you have to offer? The answer is simple. You’re settling. You are settling for someone that may not show you the love that you deserve. You are settling for the lies, inconsistencies, and disrespect. Oh, I am sorry. He/she maybe stroking your ego from time to time and maybe even putting it down in the bedroom. The sexual love and attention is so good that you disregard your real worth. Or maybe it’s the opposite. They don’t even touch you anymore or even notice you. He or she just tolerates you because you bring something to the relationship; finances, kids or material possessions. It’s probably cheaper to keep you. You are worth more. You need to recognize that despite of what you have been through or the baggage you may carry, you are worth more than what you’re getting. Don’t continue to invest your time and energy into someone undeserving of your love. Life is too short to settle. So, why are you?
Good Luck!
Shuntai Beaugard, Relationship Coach
First published December 2011
Via http://www.divinecaroline.com/22081/121016-do-waste-energy-you#ixzz1hNOXye4J
Friday, December 23, 2011
Thursday, December 1, 2011
Whoa! Wait! It's December 1st???
Seriously!? It's REALLY December 1st?
Now, how did that happen??
I hope you are all enjoying the holidays and celebrating with family and friends.
As 2011 soon come to a close, I reflect back on the year and vividly remember many of the year’s moments and tuck them in my mind to remember and cherish for a lifetime. Experiences in life; good, bad or indifferent bring us closer to where we are created to be. All things work together for our overall good. Each day is a gift! That’s why it is called the present, right?
I especially love to remember some of the funny things my kids have said, like.
The Young Man is now 15 years old: “Seriously!? Seriously, Mom!? You’re really gonna wear that? Fine! Just drop me off, but DO NOT.. DO NOT get out of the car! Please!!!”
Baby Girl, my 4 year old, sneaking in the bathroom while I’m in the shower: “(Giggle, giggle) Uh, mom!? (giggle, giggle)… I see your butt hanging out!”
Baby Girl (again), while out at the playground one evening last week: “It’s getting so dark and cloudy out now. I think it’s those people in China doing that! Oh, Mommy, can we go to China? We can take all our family with us!”
X2, my 20 month old girl twin, while pulling at her twin brother’s diaper: “X1 stinks!”
X1, my 20 month old boy twin, very loudly proclaiming in the middle of my oldest son’s basketball game: “Let’s go! Come on! Let’s go!”
Or the things I never imagined I would say:
“NO! Don’t eat that! It’s for the dog!”
“Yes, I certainly would love to hear your pee while you’re on the potty!”
“OK! OK! We’ll listen to Ice, Ice Baby one more time. Then, it’s time for a bath.”
“Oh, no! What the heck is this dried up on my shirt?” 10 minutes after arriving to work.
As my kids grow up, I realize how short my time with them truly is. It’s the little moments like bath time, story time, or morning hugs and kisses that are my cozy, safe place to hide and revive when things in life sometimes seem to overwhelm me.
I sit and watch my children play in their free, unashamed, unreserved way. They don’t concern themselves with the details of who’s watching, what people may think, how they may look or if they are doing it right. They laugh heartily, merrily and fully enjoy whatever it is they are doing, whether it be pulling the toilet tissue off the roll in record time, dumping bath water on the bathroom floor, smearing spaghetti sauce through their hair as if it was hair gel, torturing the dog with multiple bear hugs, dumping the freshly washed and folded clothes all over the floor, or squealing in a high pitch during a basketball game while your oldest son is at the foul line. They fully enjoy the moment of it all! Even when you catch them in mid-act, they usually smile as if to say, “hey, this is fun! Want to join me?”
What happens to that free spirit when we become responsible, law abiding, serious grown-ups!? Who says that as responsible adults, we should give up on playing, dreaming, being fully present, feeling alive and living out loud!?
During this holiday season, allow yourself to dream, to have fun, to tap into your inner child and to truly be present in life and live it fully! Hey, if splashing around in the toilet or drinking your own bath water is your thing, go for it!
“Dance as though no is watching you. Love as though you have never been hurt before. Sing as though no one can hear you. Live as though heaven is on earth.”
Happy Holidays!
Now, how did that happen??
I hope you are all enjoying the holidays and celebrating with family and friends.
As 2011 soon come to a close, I reflect back on the year and vividly remember many of the year’s moments and tuck them in my mind to remember and cherish for a lifetime. Experiences in life; good, bad or indifferent bring us closer to where we are created to be. All things work together for our overall good. Each day is a gift! That’s why it is called the present, right?
I especially love to remember some of the funny things my kids have said, like.
The Young Man is now 15 years old: “Seriously!? Seriously, Mom!? You’re really gonna wear that? Fine! Just drop me off, but DO NOT.. DO NOT get out of the car! Please!!!”
Baby Girl, my 4 year old, sneaking in the bathroom while I’m in the shower: “(Giggle, giggle) Uh, mom!? (giggle, giggle)… I see your butt hanging out!”
Baby Girl (again), while out at the playground one evening last week: “It’s getting so dark and cloudy out now. I think it’s those people in China doing that! Oh, Mommy, can we go to China? We can take all our family with us!”
X2, my 20 month old girl twin, while pulling at her twin brother’s diaper: “X1 stinks!”
X1, my 20 month old boy twin, very loudly proclaiming in the middle of my oldest son’s basketball game: “Let’s go! Come on! Let’s go!”
Or the things I never imagined I would say:
“NO! Don’t eat that! It’s for the dog!”
“Yes, I certainly would love to hear your pee while you’re on the potty!”
“OK! OK! We’ll listen to Ice, Ice Baby one more time. Then, it’s time for a bath.”
“Oh, no! What the heck is this dried up on my shirt?” 10 minutes after arriving to work.
As my kids grow up, I realize how short my time with them truly is. It’s the little moments like bath time, story time, or morning hugs and kisses that are my cozy, safe place to hide and revive when things in life sometimes seem to overwhelm me.
I sit and watch my children play in their free, unashamed, unreserved way. They don’t concern themselves with the details of who’s watching, what people may think, how they may look or if they are doing it right. They laugh heartily, merrily and fully enjoy whatever it is they are doing, whether it be pulling the toilet tissue off the roll in record time, dumping bath water on the bathroom floor, smearing spaghetti sauce through their hair as if it was hair gel, torturing the dog with multiple bear hugs, dumping the freshly washed and folded clothes all over the floor, or squealing in a high pitch during a basketball game while your oldest son is at the foul line. They fully enjoy the moment of it all! Even when you catch them in mid-act, they usually smile as if to say, “hey, this is fun! Want to join me?”
What happens to that free spirit when we become responsible, law abiding, serious grown-ups!? Who says that as responsible adults, we should give up on playing, dreaming, being fully present, feeling alive and living out loud!?
During this holiday season, allow yourself to dream, to have fun, to tap into your inner child and to truly be present in life and live it fully! Hey, if splashing around in the toilet or drinking your own bath water is your thing, go for it!
“Dance as though no is watching you. Love as though you have never been hurt before. Sing as though no one can hear you. Live as though heaven is on earth.”
Happy Holidays!
Friday, March 4, 2011
Get paid for telling companies what you think about their products!
Do you believe that you can be paid just for giving your honest opinion!?
Pinecone Research is looking for a few good........ survey takers!
You get paid $3 per survey and surveys usually take about 10 minutes to complete.. $3 for 10 minutes of your time??? Not bad, right. You can either receive a check in the mail or just get it direct deposited to your paypal account. Sometimes you may even be sent a product to use/evaluate in your home and then you will fill out a survey to tell the company what you like/dislike about it It's a win/win. You get to learn about new products on the market and the com
Here is the link to the registration:
www.pineconeresearch.com/signup/ds632.aspx?&sid=BGR
Want to learn more about this opportunity or email Karen Scott for more information!
If you sign up, let me know! Now, go earn some money.. I'm sure you'll find some way to use the extra money... groceries, gas, morning coffee, afternoon snacks, Friday night movies, pizza.... I can go on and on..
Good Luck!
Pinecone Research is looking for a few good........ survey takers!
You get paid $3 per survey and surveys usually take about 10 minutes to complete.. $3 for 10 minutes of your time??? Not bad, right. You can either receive a check in the mail or just get it direct deposited to your paypal account. Sometimes you may even be sent a product to use/evaluate in your home and then you will fill out a survey to tell the company what you like/dislike about it It's a win/win. You get to learn about new products on the market and the com
Here is the link to the registration:
www.pineconeresearch.com/signup/ds632.aspx?&sid=BGR
Want to learn more about this opportunity or email Karen Scott for more information!
If you sign up, let me know! Now, go earn some money.. I'm sure you'll find some way to use the extra money... groceries, gas, morning coffee, afternoon snacks, Friday night movies, pizza.... I can go on and on..
Good Luck!
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
The Snot Sucker!
Nosefrida - The Snot Sucker!
http://www.nosefrida.com/index.html
I am so buying this. X1 is constantly congested and it's usually a fight to suction out his nose. Most of the time, I'm so not up for the fight and I usually just let it go and then he ends up with an ear infection...again!
Hey, if the reviews are the least bit truthful, I think its worth a shot. I'm searcing online tonight..
I'll let you know how it goes.. Hopefully, it's not $15 wasted..
Stay tuned.
http://www.nosefrida.com/index.html
I am so buying this. X1 is constantly congested and it's usually a fight to suction out his nose. Most of the time, I'm so not up for the fight and I usually just let it go and then he ends up with an ear infection...again!
Hey, if the reviews are the least bit truthful, I think its worth a shot. I'm searcing online tonight..
I'll let you know how it goes.. Hopefully, it's not $15 wasted..
Stay tuned.
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Still Breastfeeding Twins!
The twins are now 8.5 months old and... I'm still breastfeeding. Not exclusively, but I am doing it.
When I think about just giving up on nursing, owning my boobs, and only showing them to shower, I think about:
* How it makes me laugh when X1 and X2 would sometimes prefer to nurse rather than to drink a bottle.
X1 was home sick with da hubby and I came home early for my Dr. Mom shift. X1 was drinking a bottle, but dropped it in favor of me.. I guess when you are not feeling well being cuddled up with mom is so much better than sitting upright in a chair holding a bottle.
* X1 and X2 usually nurse at the same time.
Since I have 2 boobs, I prefer to nurse them at the same time to save time. As they are much heavier and bigger now, its sometimes a chore to get them both on the pillow to nurse.
* X1 and X2 interact with each other.
X1 and X2 often hold hands or rub each others forehead or cheek while nursing at the same time. I think it's just so cute to see them do it.
* Everyone is comfortable with the idea of nursing.
When I first told da hubby that I would nurse Baby Girl (now 3) he thought it was strange since he had never been around anyone that nursed. He would even cringe when I would ask him to place a bottled of freshly pumped breastmilk in the fridge. Just to really get him going, I would even squirt milk at him and he would always react with fits of screeches and squeals as if I was tossing some dangerous acid around and attempt to run away. Now, it's nothing to him and just as natural as showering in the morning or brushing your teeth after a meal. Even Baby Girl asked me to nurse her baby doll because it was hungry. ;-)
* I also love that breastmilk seems to have magic powers.
X1 and X2 seem to recover a bit faster from colds when I nurse. X1 was very congested and somehow after nursing his nose was clear and he was able to sleep comfortably.
* X1 and X2 love to eat!
Although they are only 8 months old, they seem to be willing to try to eat almost anything. They both love to eat, especially X2. She will cry relentlessly until she gets her food. If she sees you eating, she takes it as an invitation for her to eat.
* It forces me to take a break.
No matter whats going on, I have to sit down for at least 15 minutes with my babies as they eat. In the middle of cleaning or preparing dinner and the babies want to eat... I get to take a break.
Breastfeeding twins is not easy, but I love spending the time with the babies as they grow strong and big.
When I think about just giving up on nursing, owning my boobs, and only showing them to shower, I think about:
* How it makes me laugh when X1 and X2 would sometimes prefer to nurse rather than to drink a bottle.
X1 was home sick with da hubby and I came home early for my Dr. Mom shift. X1 was drinking a bottle, but dropped it in favor of me.. I guess when you are not feeling well being cuddled up with mom is so much better than sitting upright in a chair holding a bottle.
* X1 and X2 usually nurse at the same time.
Since I have 2 boobs, I prefer to nurse them at the same time to save time. As they are much heavier and bigger now, its sometimes a chore to get them both on the pillow to nurse.
* X1 and X2 interact with each other.
X1 and X2 often hold hands or rub each others forehead or cheek while nursing at the same time. I think it's just so cute to see them do it.
* Everyone is comfortable with the idea of nursing.
When I first told da hubby that I would nurse Baby Girl (now 3) he thought it was strange since he had never been around anyone that nursed. He would even cringe when I would ask him to place a bottled of freshly pumped breastmilk in the fridge. Just to really get him going, I would even squirt milk at him and he would always react with fits of screeches and squeals as if I was tossing some dangerous acid around and attempt to run away. Now, it's nothing to him and just as natural as showering in the morning or brushing your teeth after a meal. Even Baby Girl asked me to nurse her baby doll because it was hungry. ;-)
* I also love that breastmilk seems to have magic powers.
X1 and X2 seem to recover a bit faster from colds when I nurse. X1 was very congested and somehow after nursing his nose was clear and he was able to sleep comfortably.
* X1 and X2 love to eat!
Although they are only 8 months old, they seem to be willing to try to eat almost anything. They both love to eat, especially X2. She will cry relentlessly until she gets her food. If she sees you eating, she takes it as an invitation for her to eat.
* It forces me to take a break.
No matter whats going on, I have to sit down for at least 15 minutes with my babies as they eat. In the middle of cleaning or preparing dinner and the babies want to eat... I get to take a break.
Breastfeeding twins is not easy, but I love spending the time with the babies as they grow strong and big.
Friday, November 19, 2010
Dreading the Return to Work!
I had started this post about 2 months before I returned to work.. I have now been back to work for about 4 months!
So, I'm posting it anyway... Journey back in time to when I reluctantly planned to return to work. I did do some of the items on the list below.. but, I still want to take my ladies' trip and had a spa day!
Boy, does time fly! Two months of my maternity leave has already passed. I can't believe it. Where did the time go?!
I need to maximize the remainder of my maternity leave and do all the things I won't be able to do when I return to work..
Help me make my list...
- Take a ladies trip
- Have a spa day
- Spend time just holding the kids
- Sit outside and enjoy the beautiful summer weather
- Be more leisure and relax
- Visit with friends and family
- See a movie in the middle of the day
- Visit work and maybe even have lunch with coworkers
So, I'm posting it anyway... Journey back in time to when I reluctantly planned to return to work. I did do some of the items on the list below.. but, I still want to take my ladies' trip and had a spa day!
Boy, does time fly! Two months of my maternity leave has already passed. I can't believe it. Where did the time go?!
I need to maximize the remainder of my maternity leave and do all the things I won't be able to do when I return to work..
Help me make my list...
- Take a ladies trip
- Have a spa day
- Spend time just holding the kids
- Sit outside and enjoy the beautiful summer weather
- Be more leisure and relax
- Visit with friends and family
- See a movie in the middle of the day
- Visit work and maybe even have lunch with coworkers
Baby Free Nights
I can't believe that we had 2 nights without the kids and .... it was GRRREEEEAAATTTTT!!!!!! :-) I now feel so refreshed and rejuvenated. Oh, what a feeling! I actually feel rested for the first time in about a year!
The day of our anniversary, a friend called to say that one of her coworkers had a nice room at a very nice hotel in the area, but they didn't want to use the room because they could stay with a friend instead, so they didn't want it to go to waste so they offered it to da hubby and me. The best part is that she also offered to watch the kids overnight in exchange for pizza and laundry privileges. I did not hesitate and agreed.. quick, fast and in a hurry!I couldn't believe that she would volunteer for this.. My kids will chew up and spit out any sitter that dares to care for them! Most people that have watched the kids leave almost out of breath and looking very tired and haggard saying, "Boy! I don't know how you do it!" I usually just laugh and invite them to come again soon. They rarely take me up on the offer. :-)
Anyway, we started the night at a Thai restaurant. It was my first time eating Thai food and it was so delicious! I thoroughly enjoyed it. We then went to see Saw 3D.. It was a good movie with a conclusion, but it was a bit violent and full of blood and guts. Although, I don't usually mind such things, I did have to turn my head a few times.
The next night, we went to NYC for a wedding. The bride is a friend of da hubby and she offered to give us a room to stay overnight after the wedding. Oooooohhhhhhh.. another baby free night!! I just can't get over it... It was nice to just go to sleep.. and sleep straight through the night without interruption and wake up on my own in the morning without startling awake to the screeching cries of X1 or X2 or the combination of them both as a finely tuned harmonized choir.
Nor was I awaken by Baby Girl crawling into bed with me or to the sound of the Young Man saying, "Hey Mom, are you ready?" To then I always respond mostly asleep, "Ready for what?' "I have practice and need to be there in 15 minutes". Although, it was nice to not deal with these things for 2 days, I missed them.. I know it won't be forever that these things will occur. In the blink of an eye, the kids will be grown, out on their own and may have a family on their own. I could never have this times back. They will never be 8 months, 3 and 14 years old again. So, a little break is nice.. it like hitting the Esc key on my computer and getting out of the mode that I was in and kind of go back to the main page of life. A revived mom is able to appreciate and love each of moment and see them as the precious moments that they are rather than as annoying and bothersome inconveniences that a tired and overwhelmed mom sees the nightly interruptions as.
The day of our anniversary, a friend called to say that one of her coworkers had a nice room at a very nice hotel in the area, but they didn't want to use the room because they could stay with a friend instead, so they didn't want it to go to waste so they offered it to da hubby and me. The best part is that she also offered to watch the kids overnight in exchange for pizza and laundry privileges. I did not hesitate and agreed.. quick, fast and in a hurry!I couldn't believe that she would volunteer for this.. My kids will chew up and spit out any sitter that dares to care for them! Most people that have watched the kids leave almost out of breath and looking very tired and haggard saying, "Boy! I don't know how you do it!" I usually just laugh and invite them to come again soon. They rarely take me up on the offer. :-)
Anyway, we started the night at a Thai restaurant. It was my first time eating Thai food and it was so delicious! I thoroughly enjoyed it. We then went to see Saw 3D.. It was a good movie with a conclusion, but it was a bit violent and full of blood and guts. Although, I don't usually mind such things, I did have to turn my head a few times.
The next night, we went to NYC for a wedding. The bride is a friend of da hubby and she offered to give us a room to stay overnight after the wedding. Oooooohhhhhhh.. another baby free night!! I just can't get over it... It was nice to just go to sleep.. and sleep straight through the night without interruption and wake up on my own in the morning without startling awake to the screeching cries of X1 or X2 or the combination of them both as a finely tuned harmonized choir.
Nor was I awaken by Baby Girl crawling into bed with me or to the sound of the Young Man saying, "Hey Mom, are you ready?" To then I always respond mostly asleep, "Ready for what?' "I have practice and need to be there in 15 minutes". Although, it was nice to not deal with these things for 2 days, I missed them.. I know it won't be forever that these things will occur. In the blink of an eye, the kids will be grown, out on their own and may have a family on their own. I could never have this times back. They will never be 8 months, 3 and 14 years old again. So, a little break is nice.. it like hitting the Esc key on my computer and getting out of the mode that I was in and kind of go back to the main page of life. A revived mom is able to appreciate and love each of moment and see them as the precious moments that they are rather than as annoying and bothersome inconveniences that a tired and overwhelmed mom sees the nightly interruptions as.
Life can be sweet... it just depends on what lense you are looking through!
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